I had a great friend who took his own life many years ago… and, although the curiosity admittedly there, I never asked his wife about the details (note, etc.). At least in this case, my motive would be not to find blame or anything, but just to know what was going through his head, if he had perhaps decided to articulate it. I’m still baffled by it… But yeah, in the end, it just always seemed absolutely inappropriate to ask a family member about. Reading this, I’m glad I didn’t. But, so many people have zero connection to what’s appropriate. When my mother-in-law died, my boss said, “Well, Jim, people die.” Literally, that was his entire response. On the other hand, there’s a part of me that just wants anyone to say whatever they say, appropriate or not, helpful or hurtful. At least it helps you sort out the kind of people you want around if everyone is 100% honest… If someone says something asinine or insensitive, then it becomes easy to eliminate them from your life. I mean, my old boss… haven’t spoken to him in years because I *know 100% sure* he’s an a-hole, largely because of that single utterance.

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